Assalamalaikum, I probably could have changed millions of lives. I'm also one of Allah's creations who is waiting to hear back from Him. Your email really touched me sister. Remember, difficulties are to push us to do something better, or find the right solution to something. At this point, it feels like Allah is punishing me. You pray and still keep asking Allah. You feel bad about yourself. As the pressure increases turn more towards Allah, increase your Zikr, seek protection from the Shaitan, and keep giving Charity (even though at times you are in a state where you are down literally to the last dollar). Will I be punished? and yes it is related to my marriage and today I am 39 years old. That job would have been my goal in life. was that my desire or your desire to be in this world ? His message to us ofcourse.. And where is his message to us? I know many wonder what happened to the brother upon hearing this hadith. Difficulties are to push us to do something better, or find the right solution to something. Im scared to practice my new religion in my parents presence. My things never work out. Very heart lightening article and comments Seems like you have a psychosomatic problem. To be honest it doesn't even bother me that much anymore. My parents and family are not disgusted by me, but other people for sure are. Yeah, you do not have any. Since its says thst Allah wont give us the burden which we cannot bare? Yet, there are some exercises you can do yourself. If He willed he could destroy any of us that arrogantly defies him but no, out of His Mercy he guides us so that we may return.. Its our own sins that suffocate us whereas the remeberance of Allah is where we find ease truly.. And if u want to give ur imaan(belief) that boost it needs then dont ever lose hope in Allah and his unbound Mercy dont stop asking Him for patience and other good qualities to be Bestowed upon u and most importantly read the Quran and ask Allah to embed its understanding into ur heart inshaAllah once u see the truth it will most definitely set u free.. :) asalaamu Alaikum also do dua for me brothers and sisters :) thank you, if allah gives our duas result in khayaamat then praying is waste becouse we pray to releaf our hard ship in this world not for khayaamat salam brother, i hope u r doing better now. Peoples hearts are becoming hard and what melts a hardened heart? Answer for first question: you asked why ALLAH created us, when he tell us to worship and he also didnt required us to worship because he do not rely on us or our prayers right? You must read it! idk what to do. When you are stuck in traffic, you are being protected from being in a place where something worse would happen to you at the time you would have been there if you had not been delayed. Hello, If you can only fail, how come you have written us such an honest and touching email? Whenever you feel pain, try to remember my hardship, this will reduce. Then we start leaving the baby alone for a while, so that he can lean how to walk. It went away for good once, then it came back. You Only Live Once (YOLO). I just want a spouse and a family. Surely, Allah will listen and bless you. Know dear questioner, that all of Allah's creation is good, but Allah may test a slave with sickness or a defect or ugliness and the like due to a wisdom He is aware of, and a benefit He wished for you to attain. Connect and share knowledge within a single location that is structured and easy to search. Al-Mumtahanah(8), Surely Allah loves those who fight in His way in firm rows, as if they were solid edifice. ive always asked for peace and happiness for even those who hurt me and want to destroy (it includes my brother) because I dont want to be selfish in my prayers, I dont want to personally hold a grudge for people. Again I have teachers who really could care less about me which breaks my heart. You mention cancer, what if you already have cancer and severe side effects? Third is embracing the emptiness of the loved ones. You can't truly work as a team when there is a power imbalance in this way. ALLAH Says in Quran:I will test everyone, to purify who is really trusting me and who is not and ALLAH do not test more then our power. Can I use the spell Immovable Object to create a castle which floats above the clouds? Seeing them on a paper written helps you process them and find solutions. this is why Human and satan is enemy since Adam [AS]. This was why I said I feel alone, because I don't have any friends I could trust with this information, so I turn to my family, but when they don't believe you, where do you turn? I guess you can say it's something that's not usually an illness but has gotten so out of hand/developed to the point where it's an illness and there has been no single thing treatment that really worked. Al-Ma'idah(13), Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly. :'(. I think it'll even make me have stronger iman. The Prayer of Need (Salat al-Hajah) or Istikhara? And what happened to the people of Aad? She didn't understand. But isn't it rather the source of it? I am pretty miffed and feel there is nothing like divine support to the needy. do you think this is really a big time interval? I am raising money for my asylee friends family! Yet nothings happening. So all of my life i have to commit sins, than be burned in Hell and than i get the rewards of Allah in Jannah? I don't want to seem ungrateful to him swt but it's like he's swt either enjoying seeing me sad or is punishing me for something I'm not aware I've done. This is universal rule, you have to prove what you really are that is why passing the test is important and putting your trust on ALLAH is a basic key to pass. Islam Stack Exchange is a question and answer site for Muslims, experts in Islam, and those interested in learning more about Islam. Allah loves you and has made you. And I do not want someone to tell me to be thankful. It could be that they're having a hard time managing their time or dealing with depression; they're not fully present in prayer so they start cutting off slowly from it, or they want to pray but simply don't have the willpower to. This is what you need to do as well sister. I hope this helps! Thank you for your comment, it's appreciated. Back to the topic, Its obvious for many people seeks their absence of God, why God is silent in this twisted-seems-unbalanced-harsh-world. That sounds a lot better doesnt it? I've never, in my entire life, seen ANYTHING like this before, much less people who have had something like this before. No, in this case its not true. That's what I've been currently doing to 'combat' it. What do we do about evil thoughts striking our heart? Verily! I am so done with everything. Be aware of the world around you and look out for situations where you can change something to better. How many Muslims in your shoes would have turned his back toward the deen?! The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". Allah loves you and has made you. I pray to Allah (swt) every day, and spend hours thanking Him for what He has given me, in tears. A magician. On a more spiritual level, while it may feel like Allah subhanahu wa ta'alaa is punishing you, He is probably actually just testing you. Jazak Allahu khaira. If our brain able to think like this either were a real slackers or just an empty dreamers. Asalamualeikum sister SAMIRA I do not need anyones anything, I am sufficient. Sometimes it feels like it's not an illness, which I wrote above, but I see now that it is. I feel like Allah swt is punishing me Honestly, this is going to sound so corny but I have no one to discuss this with but here goes. And the devil will go away, because you have somebody being the most powerful( God), and hes( devil) gonna be afraid to stay with you. If Allah Is Punishing You For Something, It Doesn't Mean That He Hates You. You must be humble, as it is one of the greatest forms of worship. Ali 'Imran(76), And Allah loves those who are good in their deeds. isnt that the division of ALLAH. Its like you are a plant and Allah is the ground and the water and everything you need to grow. ALLAH loves u and puts the best of people to tests These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads. 3. YET HES NOT LISTENING. If those divine words or this scientific fact doesnt make sense to you then i dont know what can make sense to you. Inshallah I am confident you will find very good friends among them. Just pray and dont attach yourself too hard to things because you will end up hurt if you attach yourself to things. Use your journal to explore this. I pray to Allah about this, but still nothing. Help us get to 900 supporters this month. The best answers are voted up and rise to the top, Not the answer you're looking for? Be the man in there eyes that they want yheir husband to be like..say istighfar alotallah will give you a don and moreinsha Allah. This is from the devil. (Please note that this approach is subjective and may work for some people and not others). Beauty and ugliness are like sickness and health, wealth and poverty, and success and failure; Allah . Having said that, he is very knowing of our limitations and our abilities therefore he didn't give you something you can't handle even though you don't feel that way. You are Allah's creation. Abu Sa'id and Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet () said: Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry, or even the pricking of a thorn; but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience. I guess this question was a last attempt, I don't know why I even asked it. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. I've been to doctors, done every imaginable thing, but here I am. (40:60). What really matters is how YOU feel after being reminded of what happens whenever you call upon Allah and make dua. i see people around me of my age most of them are blessed with baby boy first and even some are blessed with back to back to baby boys (and that ratio is also quite high). Thank him in all situations because he knows what you do not. And it was the 2nd one that really is the last straw. The people of Taif threw rocks on him while he was leaving their city. Asslam-o-alaikum Brother, i am shocked to see your questions. I have no energy to get out of bed and I can spend hours staring at the ceiling not doing anything. I dont want to be thought by people like this (but now i have to live with it by hook or by cook). Its like we carry the small kid for one year. I feel so worthless and sometimes I become so overwhelmed by pain and anger that I do not pray. Shaiton keeps on whispering for you to do bad things. Pray to Allah to give you joy in doing good. I prayed to him to grant me strength and the love and understanding of my parents and I prayed to him that I am tired of all this and dont want to shed tears upon such matters, such needless pain anymore but. Basically a person is worthless! If possible, get up early in the morning, say at 4 and start studying. if that was not then why was that neglected and not once, multiple times. Strong in faith. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. I can't get a career or a job one day because of this illness. Think about it. You need to find some one who can help you understand how your mind is causing you all this illness. That is because we want to be educated and learn some skills to full fill the human body needs. I really do. We should always keep our. I really want this job, but things have been delayed since I prayed Istikhara, He has changed to align with Islam but my father doesnt trust him. Anonymous, grow upim sorry about your sisters but we dont live in backwards arabia any more i have 5 wonder daughters and they are the jewels and pride of my eyes.who give a damn about what people in your country raise and educate your daughters dean wisedid not the messenger pbuh say a father will be give jennah for doing so.you need more daughters thats your problem. even when they treated me badly I kept to myself and just stopped hanging out with these people and cut them off because they caused me alot of heartache and problems but they keep on pushing my boutons for no reason. We life in the Matrix, like it or not. considered a person may be ur waiting for have bad (haram)habits and as u know Allah promise that :I will give naik women to naik man and sins full mans to sins full women )and hes may be overcoming that habits thats why its taking long to meet u or some other reasons Allah better know,so start loving Allah all over again it may not hurry up every thing but will give u the strength to face with even more power. Cookie Notice But that is the truth; nothing IS in your control. Why did Allah punish his own prophet? My bestfriend she is being respected by everyone and on the other hand i am being abused because i am too friendly,a little free and yeah ugly.My family always curses me,hates me and beats me. I had many hospital admissions for similar problems now life completely changed alhumdulila: husband children and I am a Muslim, I feel broken reading yoir comment Persevere and increase your imaan. I took Advanced Level in January with some AS retakes and got mediocre results again. Why Does Allah Keep Punishing Me - WHYSI When people turn their backs on Allahs message essentially they are turning their backs on Allah And what is worse then that? Thank you for the suggestions, if I have a change of mind I'll think about them, but for now I'll just focus on trying to be as happy as I can and dealing with what's going on. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. i am born in low and poor cost community, ugly face, bald hair, widened tooth in front, multicolor skin, low height, multiple family problems, sisters unmarried, people around me think of me as coward ugly face on the earth. Don't Feel Like Praying Salah? Read This - Deenspiration :'(. You need psychological treatment ASAP. Now imagine that we have a time machine and getting back to the place where we can alter our life without bringing our present life experience. Allah would delay the response till the hereafter. See: Islam SE: Not an Muslim Peer Support Group. But? One way is getting one to one counseling. How can you develop and get through them as the winner? Not at all. Thank him, trust him, ask him. We are here for you if you need anything. have you not listen to Fir-oon Wife? If anybodyy has this answer please response. 3. I am asking for something to Allah for more than 12 years. It's hard to explain. But they were rejecting Our signs. He knows what toll all of this is taking upon me and how fragile and broken and vulnerable I am turning from inside, he knows I was never like that. Don't let Shaiton get between you and Allah. Many people lie to themselves their entire life. I laughed crazily at my luck. Then satan whispers another story into my mind that all the prayers and good deeds that you have done in the past were all in vein and were not pure, and were not being accepted that is why all your prayers are neglected. Thats the only thing that scares me, I dont want to break to the point of no return. I love my Muslim boyfriend but he already has a wife. Before someone says "go speak to your wali" my wali is a christian and if I asked him to pair me my dad is going to send for a christian man. To give you those people that will help you believe that you are an amazing sister whom Allah has been preparing for something big just as through hardships He was strengthening his prophets for their roles. Sorry bro I am a Muslim but not agree with your article. even i dont know what there in my inside body ? By contrast, I ought to consider my steps carefully before drawing close to humankind. Visiting your sick sister almost everyday after school? This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Do you study? what rewards ALLAH gives them? because of my one wish and not only once, that is denied twice. I was at home for a whole year. Everything has caved in. Why dont Allah gives that person that particular thing in dunya when he doesnt want reward of that particular dua in Hereafter? the other comments are giving their best comfort to not to. Ali 'Imran(146), And Allah loves the doers of good. I've tried calming myself down. We are his servants, so as long as you are on His Earth, remain a good muslim. I prayed YEARS to beat my addiction, nothing happened yet. Question. Your only true friend who died when you were only 10. I think I was really in a black pit when I wrote this. You need to find ways to boost your self esteem and believe that you are an amazing person who is able to do anything she wishes. That's all. I feel like Allah hates me. Allah hates me : r/islam - Reddit Easier said than done. At-Tawbah(4), Surely, Allah loves the God-fearing. As-Saf(4). Would try to make u happy but remember. Now I know for sure that he is doing that to spear me from hell. It started out with the physical problem, which in turn created the mental problems. Their life is full of hardship! I don't understand why is it that when I stand up for myself and confront the person for their rude behaviour, I get treated like dirt and I become the bad, selfish, arrogant person. Don't let Shaiton get between you and Allah. I feel like I'm beyond help. I got into university and now I am living myself for the first time and I have depression now too because of how worthless I feel. Why did this have to happen? Then why i am given the choice for the unseen ? The peers at school bullied me. not getting any job because employer will see me as an worthless person when they need a winning employee in their fast business competition in this to die for world reality edition. Do not worry, if you be quiet, then everything will be ok. Thank you so much for telling me about the 'tests'. No one to run to, nothing to do, I can't do this, I can't do that, but be stuck with my problem--I'm stuck in the middle, and the pain is intolerable. Answer. But now this heart has gone black and broken. In fact Many Muslim suffer from low self esteem and negative thoughts about themselves due to racism and islamophobia. Here the satan didnt followed the orders of ALLAH, but we as human being are put into test why ? Passing negative parameters to a wolframscript, xcolor: How to get the complementary color. That's why I gave up on trying to tell them anything, they simply won't listen and will say, instead, that there is nothing wrong with me and that I'm making it all up. I found this article that is full of successful people with terrible childhood and many hardships, please read it. But dont look at everything which is painful or difficult as a test, and dont look at happy, easy things in life as a blessing. Please try this Cure, Suppose this is a cure, and IN SHA ALLAH, my ALLAH will give you all you had wished for. Had perhaps you didnt make duaa you wouldve gotten cancer. Yes its crushing when people treat you badly. I don't feel like that Allah needs us to worship him, so why do we do He knows Ive never tried to intentionally hurt someone or lie about them. their father tried to zibah them, by putting all trust on ALLAH and by determining his mind that i am a creature of ALLAH he is my LORD if he want me to do this, then no matter what i will do this. What are the advantages of running a power tool on 240 V vs 120 V? I feel like Allah hates me. Now back to ur situation let me tell u some thing every woman is made for a man and u know what he may be around u and u dont know waiting for the right time to get to u (Remember Allah knows it better than us)and as u know we are humans if we got 99 blessings we dont thank for 99 but we still complain about the1 we dont got the main purpose of saying this is look at ur self look at ur family look at ur surrounding Allah grant u many blessings u dont realize.. start thanking them Allah will give u more. Nobody in my family wants to acknowledge I have a problem (OCD and anxiety) so they simply act like I don't have it. Then write down all your strengths. I really like it. I am trying to give myself this advice too. Does Allah hate me? It was okay for a while, but then it came back harder and that's what we're trying to deal with. Is Allah Testing or Punishing You? All you need to do is to quit the distractions that are taking your mind and heart away from the remembrance of Allah, and just speak to Him. I go home and cry alone in my room thinking of how stupid I am. Prophets, those nearest to God, always had very difficult lives. The confusing thing about it is, it's an illness, but at the same time, it's not. I pray to Allah swt every day, make tahajudd, sunnah acts, etc but it's like he's swt not listening. Worshiping ALLAH is basically thanking ALLAH for this life, by having this life we thank him, we may find our self in hardship, that is to purify and verified a person that he really trust his GOD by passing his given test we earn his trust his love his blessing his rewards in this world and in hereafter. There are many hadeeth how sad he felt upon all the death he witnessed. There are people who have vegetable and retarded children. Dear anonymous, It is in Allah's (SWT) control. if u have time please contact me, i have some interesting experience and planning to start a small project, hope to get in touch with you I need a logical explanation. I would also write Honesty. What you are going through are severe trials and may Allah (SWT) grant you steadfastness and guidance in these terrible times. Allah has made you especially on His Earth. Does my worshipping to him benefits him ? Thank you for your reply. It was also a way of worship for me. Surely in this, are signs for people who reflect. Still, it could be worse. Dont hate yourself , Also, my family does not want me to see anyone about my OCD because first off, even though they think I don't have it, they still say that I'll get sent to a psych ward or hospital when there's nothing wrong with me, etc. I went to my doctor and he diagnosed me. Is there any known 80-bit collision attack? Now answering your question, i know you have some hardship my dear friend Satan is enemy of human because he has ego, he do not want to Sajda human, this is why he disobey ALLAH, because he was jealous of human he feel ego. Because at this point, there is nothing more left in life for me. why some are beautiful and also rich, while others are ugly and poor why isnt there balance. It can be anything small such as having a nice meal, having the sunshine, reading a good book. Allah says in the Quran that He created spouses for us, "And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. How Have you earned your certificates? I know I wasnt wrong to believe in allah and connect my hopes but now I find myself just questioning my believes. Make dua sincerely and wholeheartedly. i am confused..what if you really need d request here on earthlike graduate searching for job..with old parents and cannot feed himselfseeing his old mum crying..cannot get married and has been praying and requesting job even on night of qadr..and his old mum has bin fasting and praying for him to get a job..but each time he sits for interview, he get rejected because of one little reason or the other.. Listen to khutbahs online. let me give those answers. So why even try? Connect and share knowledge within a single location that is structured and easy to search. I also want to study hard, learn from the best minds in the world and broaden my mind so as to do something good for this world. The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". The greater one's love for Allah The Almighty, the more he has hope and fear. The most hurtful was when he had to see his uncle Hamzahs body being horribly humiliated after a battle. Now move on.. I (no longer, alhamdulillah) was in a haram relationship for a while and hoped for it to lead to marriage. Not only me, my mother and relatives also do dua for me, then also it is not answered. Im sorry but Im disappointed by your despise of daughters. O Allah take my soul without me feeling any pain [AMAZING!]. what if ALLAH has created you an animal? When you don't worship Allah, you cut yourself off from your own source. He wants us to be cleansed of sins so that we can go directly to Jenna after life. after reading this article and comments my emaan has become stronger. Sister, the traumas you have been through are a lot to carry by yourself. For us, Allah swt should be enough even when we are alone, isolated, and without help. There are a lot of signs to know the love of Allah in Quran. it's shaytan trying to trick your mind and trying to lead you astray, just ignore it and recite I'm So Angry at Allah, I Lost My Love for Him | About Islam Visits the mosque more than you normally would to attend Salah and inshaallah everything you are feeling will be gone! It was treated, but then it came back again, and absolutely worse. Read his life story, or if you have read it already read it again but this time take notes of his hardships. It's helped a bit. Your question Cant ALLAH give us Khair ( batter ) : Brother who are you? Can you see Date? Yesterday i was about to sneeze then i said god bless (my friends name) and i sneezed, i was again going to sneeze and i said god bless me but then it just stopped. when i had my first baby as daughter, i controlled myself, satan tried to deviate me from my lord, but with the help of ALLAH i was able to get rid off of him. Mother will not let me become a commerical pilot because I am a girl! I've gotten this far, haven't I? ###Loveing Allah is just cure of every wound I have been crazy and I believe I have had something of a nervous breakdown. M teachers are contemptuous and impatient because I do not ask smart questions like my classmates and it is so hard for me to focus and study. Advertisement cookies are used to provide visitors with relevant ads and marketing campaigns. Praise be to Allah.